A nice motivational speech of Steve Jobs
Below is the transcript:
I am honored to be with you today at your commencement from one of the finest universities in the world. I never graduated from college. Truth be told, this is the closest I've ever gotten to a college graduation. Today I want to tell you three stories from my life. That's it. No big deal. Just three stories.
The first story is about connecting the dots.
I dropped out of Reed College after the first 6 months, but then stayed around as a drop-in for another 18 months or so before I really quit. So why did I drop out?
It started before I was born. My biological mother was a young, unwed college graduate student, and she decided to put me up for adoption. She felt very strongly that I should be adopted by college graduates, so everything was all set for me to be adopted at birth by a lawyer and his wife. Except that when I popped out they decided at the last minute that they really wanted a girl. So my parents, who were on a waiting list, got a call in the middle of the night asking: "We have an unexpected baby boy; do you want him?" They said: "Of course." My biological mother later found out that my mother had never graduated from college and that my father had never graduated from high school. She refused to sign the final adoption papers. She only relented a few months later when my parents promised that I would someday go to college.
And 17 years later I did go to college. But I naively chose a college that was almost as expensive as Stanford, and all of my working-class parents' savings were being spent on my college tuition. After six months, I couldn't see the value in it. I had no idea what I wanted to do with my life and no idea how college was going to help me figure it out. And here I was spending all of the money my parents had saved their entire life. So I decided to drop out and trust that it would all work out OK. It was pretty scary at the time, but looking back it was one of the best decisions I ever made. The minute I dropped out I could stop taking the required classes that didn't interest me, and begin dropping in on the ones that looked interesting.
It wasn't all romantic. I didn't have a dorm room, so I slept on the floor in friends' rooms, I returned coke bottles for the 5¢ deposits to buy food with, and I would walk the 7 miles across town every Sunday night to get one good meal a week at the Hare Krishna temple. I loved it. And much of what I stumbled into by following my curiosity and intuition turned out to be priceless later on. Let me give you one example:
Reed College at that time offered perhaps the best calligraphy instruction in the country. Throughout the campus every poster, every label on every drawer, was beautifully hand calligraphed. Because I had dropped out and didn't have to take the normal classes, I decided to take a calligraphy class to learn how to do this. I learned about serif and san serif typefaces, about varying the amount of space between different letter combinations, about what makes great typography great. It was beautiful, historical, artistically subtle in a way that science can't capture, and I found it fascinating.
None of this had even a hope of any practical application in my life. But ten years later, when we were designing the first Macintosh computer, it all came back to me. And we designed it all into the Mac. It was the first computer with beautiful typography. If I had never dropped in on that single course in college, the Mac would have never had multiple typefaces or proportionally spaced fonts. And since Windows just copied the Mac, its likely that no personal computer would have them. If I had never dropped out, I would have never dropped in on this calligraphy class, and personal computers might not have the wonderful typography that they do. Of course it was impossible to connect the dots looking forward when I was in college. But it was very, very clear looking backwards ten years later.
Again, you can't connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something — your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. This approach has never let me down, and it has made all the difference in my life.
My second story is about love and loss.
I was lucky — I found what I loved to do early in life. Woz and I started Apple in my parents garage when I was 20. We worked hard, and in 10 years Apple had grown from just the two of us in a garage into a $2 billion company with over 4000 employees. We had just released our finest creation — the Macintosh — a year earlier, and I had just turned 30. And then I got fired. How can you get fired from a company you started? Well, as Apple grew we hired someone who I thought was very talented to run the company with me, and for the first year or so things went well. But then our visions of the future began to diverge and eventually we had a falling out. When we did, our Board of Directors sided with him. So at 30 I was out. And very publicly out. What had been the focus of my entire adult life was gone, and it was devastating.
I really didn't know what to do for a few months. I felt that I had let the previous generation of entrepreneurs down - that I had dropped the baton as it was being passed to me. I met with David Packard and Bob Noyce and tried to apologize for screwing up so badly. I was a very public failure, and I even thought about running away from the valley. But something slowly began to dawn on me — I still loved what I did. The turn of events at Apple had not changed that one bit. I had been rejected, but I was still in love. And so I decided to start over.
I didn't see it then, but it turned out that getting fired from Apple was the best thing that could have ever happened to me. The heaviness of being successful was replaced by the lightness of being a beginner again, less sure about everything. It freed me to enter one of the most creative periods of my life.
During the next five years, I started a company named NeXT, another company named Pixar, and fell in love with an amazing woman who would become my wife. Pixar went on to create the worlds first computer animated feature film, Toy Story, and is now the most successful animation studio in the world. In a remarkable turn of events, Apple bought NeXT, I returned to Apple, and the technology we developed at NeXT is at the heart of Apple's current renaissance. And Laurene and I have a wonderful family together.
I'm pretty sure none of this would have happened if I hadn't been fired from Apple. It was awful tasting medicine, but I guess the patient needed it. Sometimes life hits you in the head with a brick. Don't lose faith. I'm convinced that the only thing that kept me going was that I loved what I did. You've got to find what you love. And that is as true for your work as it is for your lovers. Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven't found it yet, keep looking. Don't settle. As with all matters of the heart, you'll know when you find it. And, like any great relationship, it just gets better and better as the years roll on. So keep looking until you find it. Don't settle.
My third story is about death.
When I was 17, I read a quote that went something like: "If you live each day as if it was your last, someday you'll most certainly be right." It made an impression on me, and since then, for the past 33 years, I have looked in the mirror every morning and asked myself: "If today were the last day of my life, would I want to do what I am about to do today?" And whenever the answer has been "No" for too many days in a row, I know I need to change something.
Remembering that I'll be dead soon is the most important tool I've ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life. Because almost everything — all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure - these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important. Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart.
About a year ago I was diagnosed with cancer. I had a scan at 7:30 in the morning, and it clearly showed a tumor on my pancreas. I didn't even know what a pancreas was. The doctors told me this was almost certainly a type of cancer that is incurable, and that I should expect to live no longer than three to six months. My doctor advised me to go home and get my affairs in order, which is doctor's code for prepare to die. It means to try to tell your kids everything you thought you'd have the next 10 years to tell them in just a few months. It means to make sure everything is buttoned up so that it will be as easy as possible for your family. It means to say your goodbyes.
I lived with that diagnosis all day. Later that evening I had a biopsy, where they stuck an endoscope down my throat, through my stomach and into my intestines, put a needle into my pancreas and got a few cells from the tumor. I was sedated, but my wife, who was there, told me that when they viewed the cells under a microscope the doctors started crying because it turned out to be a very rare form of pancreatic cancer that is curable with surgery. I had the surgery and I'm fine now.
This was the closest I've been to facing death, and I hope its the closest I get for a few more decades. Having lived through it, I can now say this to you with a bit more certainty than when death was a useful but purely intellectual concept:
No one wants to die. Even people who want to go to heaven don't want to die to get there. And yet death is the destination we all share. No one has ever escaped it. And that is as it should be, because Death is very likely the single best invention of Life. It is Life's change agent. It clears out the old to make way for the new. Right now the new is you, but someday not too long from now, you will gradually become the old and be cleared away. Sorry to be so dramatic, but it is quite true.
Your time is limited, so don't waste it living someone else's life. Don't be trapped by dogma — which is living with the results of other people's thinking. Don't let the noise of others' opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.
When I was young, there was an amazing publication called The Whole Earth Catalog, which was one of the bibles of my generation. It was created by a fellow named Stewart Brand not far from here in Menlo Park, and he brought it to life with his poetic touch. This was in the late 1960's, before personal computers and desktop publishing, so it was all made with typewriters, scissors, and polaroid cameras. It was sort of like Google in paperback form, 35 years before Google came along: it was idealistic, and overflowing with neat tools and great notions.
Stewart and his team put out several issues of The Whole Earth Catalog, and then when it had run its course, they put out a final issue. It was the mid-1970s, and I was your age. On the back cover of their final issue was a photograph of an early morning country road, the kind you might find yourself hitchhiking on if you were so adventurous. Beneath it were the words: "Stay Hungry. Stay Foolish." It was their farewell message as they signed off. Stay Hungry. Stay Foolish. And I have always wished that for myself. And now, as you graduate to begin anew, I wish that for you.
Stay Hungry. Stay Foolish.
Thank you all very much.
bitter the better
Friendship.....
Hope, is only till we loose it!Trust, is only till we belive it!Love, is only till we feel it!but friendship is forever....
Think before u make a job switch
The passenger apologized to the driver – "Hey, I didn't know that one touch of mine could make you afraid so much. I am sorry."
The cab driver replied – "Hey, it's not your fault. Actually this is the first day of me as a cab driver. Earlier I was driving a van since 25 years which used to carry deadbodies…."
So, think before you make a job switch.
Believe....
Don't even believe your shadow!
Whatever happened has happened!
Nothing can be done for that,
Don't believe the Past,
Believe your future alone!!!
My life is a STOCK MARKET
My life is a STOCK MARKET.........
i am loosing out everything i have now, to earn money, which i could use later to buy back what i lost!!!!!
Software Engineer -Good Fact
You can be a Lawyer and defend lives…
You can be a Soldier and protect lives…
But why to play with other's life???
So we simply became a software engineer to screw up our own life J
POWER NAP - A must for all ...
http://fwdmails-dhana.blogspot.com/2008/07/power-nap-must-for-all.html
and benefits
10 Benefits of Power Napping, and How to Do It
1. Less stress.
2. Increased alertness and productivity.
3. Improved memory and learning.
4. Good for the heart.
5. Increased cognitive functioning.
6. Get motivated to exercise.
7. Boost your creativity.
8. Make up for midnight tossing and turning.
9. Protect yourself from sleepiness.
10. Better health.
Getting the perfect nap
The first consideration is psychological: Recognize that you're not being lazy; napping will make you more productive and more alert after you wake up.
Try to nap in the morning or just after lunch; human circadian rhythms make late afternoons a more likely time to fall into deep (slow-wave) sleep, which will leave you groggy.
Avoid consuming large quantities of caffeine as well as foods that are heavy in fat and sugar, which meddle with a person's ability to fall asleep.
Instead, in the hour or two before your nap time, eat foods high in calcium and protein, which promote sleep.
Find a clean, quiet place where passersby and phones won't disturb you.
Try to darken your nap zone, or wear an eyeshade. Darkness stimulates melatonin, the sleep- inducing hormone.
Remember that body temperature drops when you fall asleep. Raise the room temperature or use a blanket.
Once you are relaxed and in position to fall asleep, set your alarm for the desired duration (see below).
You yourself
- Gautama Buddha
[Crazy Dubai] 'moving' skyscraper
"It's the first building that rotates, moves, and changes shape," said architect David Fisher, who is Italian, at a news conference in New York.
"This building never looks the same, not once in a lifetime," he added.
The apartments, which will take between one and three hours to make a complete rotation, will cost from $3.7m to $36m.
The skyscraper will cost an estimated $700m to build and should be up and running in Dubai in 2010.
Some other crazy things : Dubai Architecture
Positive side of Ambani
MANY other Indian business families have been rich for generations, and their scions don finely cut suits and flaunt fussy tastes. Ratan Tata cruises down Marine Drive on Sundays in fast cars and favors Hermès ties with matching handkerchiefs. Vijay Mallya is said to be trailed in his home by a butler holding a silver tray with a cigar and a Scotch. Adi and Parmeshwar Godrej are famous for soirées that attract Hollywood stars.
Mr. Ambani comports himself quite differently. Among family members, he prefers speaking Gujarati to English, friends say. He may ask colleagues to stop at the temple with him during business trips to partake in a ritual Hindu prayer. He loathes Western suits, preferring a white short-sleeved shirt, black trousers and black shoes that resemble sneakers cross-bred with office wingtips.
Hyundai's new 3-D TV
CNN Reports : Japan debuts 3-D TV
TOKYO, Japan (AP) -- Badminton matches look so real playing on Hyundai's new 3-D TV that you may reflexively dodge the virtual shuttlecock.
Kim Pyeng-joong, senior manager of Hyundai Japan, wears special glasses to watch Hyundai's new 3-D TV.
A polar bear pawing the glass of his tank may seem to be inside the TV pushing on the screen.
Hyundai is offering -- in Japan only -- the first product for watching the 3-D programs that cable stations in Japan now broadcast about four times a day.
There are a few catches:
The 46-inch liquid-crystal display requires 3-D glasses; it's expensive -- $3,960, including two pairs of glasses, or about 25 percent more than a comparable regular LCD TV; and the only programs available so far include just a few minutes of video from Japan's northern island of Hokkaido -- shots from the zoo, motorcycle races and other short scenes.
Seen on regular TVs, 3D programs split the screen vertically so the same image appears in both the left and right halves. Conversely, wearing the 3-D glasses while watching regular programming on the Hyundai 3-D TV produces a slight 3-D effect.
The TV uses stereoscopic technology called TriDef from DDD Group Plc in Santa Monica, California, which works by sending the same image separately for the left eye and the right eye.
Ryo Saito of BS 11, the cable channel that runs the 3-D shows, says more content is needed for the technology to catch on, and other manufacturers need to start making 3-D televisions.
"People are showing interest in 3-D programs, but most homes don't have the special TVs," he said.
Samsung already sells 3-D rear projection TVs in the U.S., but there are no 3-D TV broadcasts in the United States. The technology is also available on desktop monitors and for video games.
Hyundai IT is hoping to boost its image by gaining a niche audience in Japan, where the TV market is dominated by Sony Corp. and Sharp Corp. The South Korean electronics maker's 3-D TV went on sale in April, but unit sales numbers weren't available.
There is no plan to sell the TV overseas, said senior manager Kim Pyeng-joong.
Robot girlfriend for lonely men - from Japan
TOKYO (Reuters Life!) - She is big-busted, petite, very friendly, and she runs on batteries.
A Japanese firm has produced a 38 cm (15 inch) tall robotic girlfriend that kisses on command, to go on sale in September for around $175, with a target market of lonely adult men.
Using her infrared sensors and battery power, the diminutive damsel named "EMA" puckers up for nearby human heads, entering what designers call its "love mode".
"Strong, tough and battle-ready are some of the words often associated with robots, but we wanted to break that stereotype and provide a robot that's sweet and interactive," said Minako Sakanoue, a spokeswoman for the maker, Sega Toys.
"She's very lovable and though she's not a human, she can act like a real girlfriend."
EMA, which stands for Eternal Maiden Actualization, can also hand out business cards, sing and dance, with Sega hoping to sell 10,000 in the first year.
Japan, home to almost half the world's 800,000 industrial robots, envisions a $10-billion market for artificial intelligence in a decade.
Anticipatory divorce petitions, at the time of marriage!!!
The Supreme Court on Tuesday expressed concern over the increasing number of divorce cases and also blamed the Hindu Marriage Act, saying it had harmed the family system than strengthening it.
“The Hindu Marriage Act has broken more homes than uniting," a vacation bench of Justices Arijit Pasayat and G S Singhvi observed.
The apex court regretted that the growing number of divorce cases was having a disastrous effect on the children of families broken up in such a manner.
Enacted in 1955, the Hindu Marriage Act, had undergone several amendments till 2003. It contains various provisions for validity of a Hindu marriage.
"Even at the time of marriage, anticipatory divorce petitions are being filed," the bench remarked sarcastically.
The apex court made the observation while dealing with a petition filed by a divorcee seeking his child's custody.
“Ego should get dissolved for the sake of the child," the bench remarked even as the separated parents tried to air their views.
The apex court told the separated couple that it was more concerned about the welfare of the child, rather than the recrimination between the couple.
“Ultimately the child suffers. If it is a girl, the trauma is more, particularly at the time of the marriage of such children," Justice Pasayat, speaking for the bench observed.
Car that runs on water -- from Japan
Article in engadget.com
We've seen plenty of promises about water-powered cars (among other things), but it looks like Japan's Genepax has now made some real progress on that front, with it recently taking the wraps off its Water Energy System fuel cell prototype. The key to that system, it seems, is its membrane electrode assembly (or MEA), which contains a material that's capable of breaking down water into hydrogen and oxygen through a chemical reaction. Not surprisingly, the company isn't getting much more specific than that, with it only saying that it's adopted a "well-known process to produce hydrogen from water to the MEA." Currently, that system costs on the order of ¥2,000,000 (or about $18,700 -- not including the car), but company says that if it can get it into mass production that could be cut to ¥500,000 or less (or just under $5,000). Head on past the break for a video of car in action courtesy of Reuters.
New Tamil Nadu Legislative Assembly Complex designed by German Architects
german-info.com Reports : German Architects design Tamil Nadu Legislative Assembly Complex
German architect GMP has won the provincial government of Tamil Nadu’s international invitation to tender for the design of the new state parliament building in Chennai. The project is due to be completed by 2010.
GMP is a united venture of Meinhard von Gerkan and Volkwin Marg, who have planned and realized buildings in almost all major cities in Germany. The duo is famous worldwide for their magnificent designs in countries like Russia and China.
The design of the parliament building takes account of the state's cultural traditions as well as the urban context of the city of Chennai. With its highly visible dome, the design echoes the structural features of Dravidian temple complexes in south India.
The geometry of the complex’s structure is derived from the traditional, round chakra or mandala motif, consisting of circles of various sizes inscribed in 36 isosceles triangles. These basic shapes make up the geometrical structure of the entire design in both ground plan and elevation.
The internal plan features courtyard architecture with five round interior courts that are functionally differentiated, creating public, semi-public and also secure internal areas.
The spacious Citizens' Forum on the south side of the building is created by the largest circle in the mandala. It is both the opening towards the city and the entrance area, with public functional areas.
The three other round courtyards in the interior of the building house the Assembly Hall, the Legislative Assembly Chamber and the Convention Hall.
The state parliament rests on a battered plinth and is landscaped all round. The glass dome over the Assembly Hall marks the seat of the Tamil parliament.
Also See : The Details of current TN legislative assembly complex - THE FORT ST. GEORGE
Teenagers 'stressed out' by mobile phones
Frequent mobile phone use may be associated with teenage stress, restlessness and sleep problems, a study has found.
The scientists found that the teenagers who used their mobile phones often were more restless than infrequent users. They also had more "careless" lifestyles, consumed more stimulating beverages, suffered from disrupted sleep or insomnia, and were more susceptible to stress and fatigue.Study leader Dr Gaby Badre, from Sahigren's Academy in Gothenburg, said: "Addiction to cellphones is becoming common. Youngsters feel a group pressure to remain interconnected and reachable round the clock.
"Children start to use mobile phones at an early stage of their life. There seems to be a connection between intensive use of cellphones and health compromising behaviour such as smoking, snuffing and use of alcohol.
"It is necessary to increase the awareness among youngsters of the negative effects of excessive mobile phone use on their sleep-wake patterns, with serious health risks as well as attention and cognitive problems."
Indian school names monkey god chairman
CNN Reports : Indian school names monkey god chairman
Hanuman, the popular god known for his strength and valor, has been named official chairman of the recently opened Sardar Bhagat Singh College of Technology and Management in northern India, a school official said Saturday.
The position comes with an incense-filled office, a desk and a laptop computer. Four chairs will be placed facing the empty seat reserved for the chairman and all visitors must enter the office barefoot, said Vivek Kangdi, the school's vice chairman.
Few tips to help you quit 'somking'
This year’s theme for World No Tobacco Day, 31st May 2008, was "Tobacco-free Youth". Tobacco use kills 5.4 million people a year - an average of one person every six seconds - and accounts for one in 10 adult deaths worldwide. It is a risk factor for six of the eight leading causes of deaths in the world.
Here are a few tips to help you quit:
1. Think about your reasons for smoking and find less harmful ways of fulfilling that need.
2. Weigh the "pros" and "cons" of quitting smoking and decide what is really important to you, the benefits of smoking or the benefits of quitting.
3. Prepare to quit smoking by Looking at your past quit attempts and assessing what made you fail Setting a stop date. Keeping a smoking diary.
4. Quit smoking by using the 4 Ds when cravings hit:
a) Do something else
b) Delay
c) Deep breathing
d) Drink water
5. Be active. Walking is a great way to move and it's a quick fix for the urge to smoke.
6. Eat a healthy diet and limit caffeine and alcohol.
Keyword Optimize Your Resume
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Applying for a job without knowing somebody at the company first often feels like a quixotic mission. You throw your resume into the faceless online job site grinder and hope a human being somewhere along the way recognizes your obvious talents and relevant life and work experience. Good luck with that, Don!
Here’s how to put keyword optimization to work getting your resume discovered.
Use “preferable” terms. This one comes from Pinny Cohen. Recruiters and HR people are bound to search on the most obvious or common terms when seeking out candidates to forward to a hiring manager. So how do you figure out what terms people might be looking for? Cohen mentions a page updated weekly by job site TheLadders.com, which lists the 100 top recruiter search words. Using these instead of more creative phrasing will help those recruiters find you.Include a keyword summary. CareerPerfect advises that you add this at the beginning of a resume even if you’ve used keywords throughout for three reasons:
- It lets you offer up variations on the keyword that may not fit elsewhere in the file.
- The more keywords you have, the greater the keyword density, which can help your ranking.
- You’re more likely to cover alternative keywords that might be used by the searcher.
The site advises separating keywords with commas or periods.
Integrate the keywords in a “Qualification Summary.” Pat Kendall of Advanced Resume Concepts says that search engines for job sites are becoming sophisticated enough to read keywords in context, and therefore they can figure out if your keywords are legitimate based on the text that surrounds them. Therefore, just providing a laundry list of keywords won’t necessarily be as effective as a summary statement that provides the human element.
She offers two examples. Here’s a sample of a non-”keyword loaded” summary:
Achievement-oriented with 15 years of successful experience and proven ability to meet objectives, communicate with clients, and quickly excel in new industries.
Here’s a “keyword-heavy” sample:
Achievement-oriented sales professional with 15 years of success in international trade and global marketing. Skilled in developing marketing programs, coordinating new product introductions and providing customer support. Proven track record in cold calling, new business development and key account management.
Use keywords inconsistently. As job-hunt.org reminds us, you don’t know if the recruiter will type in MA, Mass or Massachusetts, so cover all bases if that’s where you’re looking for work.
Get the top keywords into titles. As “Pimp Your Work” points out, the location of keywords within your resume is important. “For example, if the keyword is in your title, you’ll have a better chance of ranking high rather than if it were just in your profile body.”
Get keyword hints from the job listing itself. According to Monster.com “resume expert” Kim Isaacs, if you study the particular job listing, “you’ll be able to get into the mind of employers who literally spell out what they’re looking for.”
Here’s an example she provides:
Requirements: The qualified candidate will have a minimum of five years of human resource experience in a fast-paced environment with strong knowledge of benefits administration including medical, dental, life, 401(k) and COBRA. Proficiency in MS Office programs is required. Bachelor’s degree preferred.
What have you figured out about optimizing your resume?
Chennai Airport to be India’s Greenest
Chennai Airport to be India’s Greenest[4]
The Airports Authority of India has chosen plans by a team of architects including Frederic Schwartz Architects, Hargreaves Associates, Gensler and Creative Group to expand the Chennai International Airport’s domestic and international terminals. When completed in 2010, the $300 million project will transform Chennai's airport into India’s greenest.
The revamped Kamaraj Domestic Terminal will feature what designers describe as a “green gate”: a parking garage with a green roof and rainwater capture systems. Two 1 acre (0.0040 km²) gardens will form a central element within the terminal (top). The terminal’s wing-like curved roof is supported on large, full-height columns. The forward slope of these elements will work with the stiffness of the trusses to resist transverse wind and seismic forces. Along the building’s 984 ft (300 m) length, the V-shaped configuration of support columns will work integrally with a compression truss to create a repetitive series of stable triangulated elements to resist longitudinal forces. Large, arching space-frame trusses will allow for column-free public spaces on both the landside and airside terminal areas. Expansive glass curtain walls will boost the feeling of airiness and spaciousness, as will skylights.
Trust and Relationships
TRUST is a very important factor for all relationships. When trust is broken, it is the end of the relationship. Lack of trust leads to suspicion, suspicion generates anger, anger causes enmity and enmity may result in separation.
A telephone operator told me that one day she received a phone call. She answered, "Public Utilities Board." There was silence. She repeated, "PUB." There was still no answer. When she was going to cut off the line, she Heard a lady's voice, "Oh, so this is PUB.Sorry, I got the number from my Husband's pocket but I do not know whose number it is."
Without mutual trust, just imagine what will happen to the couple if the telephone operator answered with just "hello" instead of "PUB".
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NO POINTING FINGERS
A man asked his father-in-law, "Many people praised you for a successful marriage. Could you please share with me your secret?" The father-in-law answered in a smile, "Never criticize your wife for her shortcomings or when she does something wrong. Always bear in mind that because of her shortcomings and weaknesses, she could not find a better husband than you."
We all look forward to being loved and respected. Many people are afraid of losing face. Generally, when a person makes a mistake, he would look around to find a scapegoat to point the finger at. This is the start of a war. We should always remember that when we point one finger at a person, the other four fingers are pointing at ourselves.
If we forgive the others, others will ignore our mistake too.
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CREATING PERFECT RELATIONSHIPS?
A person visited the government matchmaker for marriage, SDU, and requested "I am looking for a spouse.. Please help me to find a suitable one." The SDU officer said, "Your requirements, please." "Oh, good looking, polite, humorous , sporty, knowledgeable, good in singing and dancing. Willing to accompany me the whole day at home during my leisure hour, if I don't go out. Telling me interesting stories when I need companion for conversation and be silent when I want to rest." The officer listened carefully and replied, "I understand you need television."
There is a saying that a perfect match can only be found between a blind wife and a deaf husband ,because the blind wife cannot see the faults of the husband and the deaf husband cannot hear the nagging of the wife. Many couples are blind and deaf at the courting stage and dream of perpetual perfect relationship. Unfortunately, when the excitement of love wears off, they wake up and discover that marriage is not a bed of roses. The nightmare begins.
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NO OVERPOWERING
Many relationships fail because one party tries to overpower another,or demands too much. People in love tend to think that love will conquer all and their spouses will change the bad habits after marriage. Actually, this is not the case. There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that "It is easier to reshape a mountain or a river than a person's character."
It is not easy to change. Thus, having high expectation on changing the spouse character will cause disappointment and unpleasantness.
It would be less painful to change ourselves and lower our expectations..
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RIGHT SPEECH
There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that "A speech will either prosper or ruin a nation." Many relationships break off because of wrong speech. When a couple is too close with each other,we always forget mutual respect and courtesy.. We may say anything without considering if it would hurt the other party.
A friend and her millionaire husband visited their construction site. A worker who wore a helmet saw her and shouted,"Hi, Emily! Remember me? We used to date in the secondary school." On the way home, her millionaire husband teased her, "Luckily you married me.Otherwise you will be the wife of a construction worker." She answered ,"You should appreciate that you married me. Otherwise, he will be the millionaire and not you."
Frequently exchanging these remarks plants the seed for a bad relationship. It's like a broken egg - cannot be reversed.
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PERSONAL PERCEPTION
Different people have different perception. One man's meat could be another man's poison. A couple bought a donkey from the market. On the way home,a boy commented, "Very stupid. Why neither of them ride on the donkey?" Upon hearing that, the husband let the wife ride on the donkey. He walked besides them. Later, an old man saw it and commented, "The husband is the head of family. How can the wife ride on the donkey while the husband is on foot?" Hearing this, the wife quickly got down and let the husband ride on the donkey.
Further on the way home, they met an old Lady. She commented, "How can the man ride on the donkey but let the wife walk. He is no gentleman." The husband thus quickly asked the wife to join him on the donkey. Then, they met a young man. He commented, "Poor donkey, how can you hold up the weight of two persons. They are cruel to you." Hearing that, the husband and wife immediately climbed down from the donkey and carried it on their shoulders.
It seems to be the only choice left. Later, on a narrow bridge, the donkey was frightened and struggled. They lost their balance and fell into the river. You can never have everyone praise you, nor will everyone condemn you. Never in the past, not at present, and never will be in the future.
Thus, do not be too bothered by others words if our conscience is clear..
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BE PATIENT
This is a true story which happened in the States. A man came out of his home to admire his new truck. To his puzzlement, his three-year-old son was happily hammering dents into the shiny paint of the truck. The man ran to his son, knocked him away, hammered the little boy's hands into pulp as punishment. When the father calmed down, he rushed his son to the hospital.
Although the doctor tried desperately to save the crushed bones, he finally had to amputate the fingers from both the boy's hands. When the boy woke up from the surgery & saw his bandaged stubs, he innocently said, " Daddy,I'm sorry about your truck." Then he asked, "but when are my fingers going to grow back?" The father went home & committed suicide.
Think about this story the next time someone steps on your feet or u wish to take revenge. Think first before u lose your patience with someone u love. Trucks can be repaired.. Broken bones & hurt feelings often can't. Too often we fail to recognize the difference between the person and the performance. We forget that forgiveness is greater than revenge.
People make mistakes. We are allowed to make mistakes. But the actions we take while in a rage will haunt us forever.
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(Got this mail from Chandru)
[Chinese Proverb] Person's character
How to save kids from online predators
How to save kids from online predators
June is the Internet safety month. With hundred of millions of teens, pre-teens and adults around the world using social networking sites, there's no better time for parents to be aware of the fun, benefits, powerful attractions, and the potential risks that the popular social networking sites like MySpace, Facebook and others pose to children.
Here are a few tips for parents that can go a long way in ensuring a safe and healthy networking environment for kids.
Show interest
Ask questions about how your child’s preferred social networking site or sites work. Kids are generally happy to demonstrate their knowledge if you show genuine interest.
You can even ask your teen to show you how to set up your own social networking site -- a great way to visit your child's page and see what's been posted there.
Discourage them to add strangers
Kids often can instinctively do the right thing, which makes them their own first defence against those who may take advantage online.
Encourage your children to avoid contact with people they "feel funny about." Tell them not to reveal anything online they would not want a stranger to know. Limit the posting of pictures and remind them that once something is placed online, it can never be taken back.
Know their passwords
If your child changes his or her password suddenly and refuses to share it with you, that's trouble.
Insist on knowing how to access his or her accounts -- then keep their confidence by not sharing the information with their friends or siblings
Set Internet hours
Late nights are the favourite time for predators to seek out their adolescent prey. Set firm limits not only for the time of day, but also the total amount of time, that your children may access social networking sites.
Kids don't have to access their social networks at home. Libraries, friends' houses, even cell phones make the Internet easy to reach today. Keep up with what's happening on your child's social networking page and be aware when changes have been made despite the lack of access from home.
Check for photos
By clicking on the Windows "Start" button, you'll find the "Search" tool. Click on "Pictures, Music or Video," the box next to "Pictures and Photos," and finally "Search".
Ask your child to identify any photos of strangers, or any other pictures that you find questionable.
Install filtering software
PC products like Safe Eyes allow parents to block or record Instant Messenger chats, limit email use to prescribed addresses, block objectionable websites (including peer-to-peer file sharing programmes that often expose kids to inappropriate material), and receive alerts when kids post personal information on social networking sites.
Watch for cyberbullying
Speak to your children regularly. Encourage them to tell you immediately if they are being harassed online. Children also need to know that it is not acceptable to be a party to cyberbullying or to remain silent when they know others are being harassed.
However, don’t lecture your kids. Have a discussion about values and why they are important. Respect your child but be firm.
Courtesy: AFP
Paralysed man takes a walk in virtual world
A paralysed man using only his brain waves has been able to manipulate a virtual Internet character, Japanese researchers said Monday, calling it a world first.The 41-year-old patient used his imagination to make his character take a walk and chat to another virtual person on the popular Second Life website.
The patient, who has suffered paralysis for more than 30 years, can barely bend his fingers due to a progressive muscle disease so cannot use a mouse or keyboard in the traditional way.
In the experiment, he wore headgear with three electrodes monitoring brain waves related to his hands and legs. Even though he cannot move his legs, he imagined that his character was walking.
Hmmm... these things are only possible in JAPAN.
Hair cloning could provide cure for baldness
Trial results presented at a conference of leading hair replacement surgeons in Rome suggested that the cell therapy can increase hair count in at least two thirds of patients after six months, and four out of five if the scalp is stimulated beforehand through gentle abrasions which encourage hair growth.
Great news for me :)
Underwater TV Viewing Mobile Phone
newsline365.com : Fujitsu To Roll Out Underwater TV Viewing Mobile Phone F706i
No more mobile phones are limited with their air-to-air services! Two new tags ‘air-to-water’ and ‘water-to-air’ has been added to the armory of mobile operators recently when Fujitsu, Japan’s leading mobile accessory manufacturer, declared about their first of its kind waterproof mobile phone handset F706i to the world. The sensual phone is likely to be released soon in Japan and then it will be available worldwide, said a recent media report.
Wonder if it would find usage in INDIA!!!
The Qualities that make a good Cricket Captain
• The Skipper of a side has to be really as cool as a cucumber and should be someone who isn’t prone to panic under pressure. After all his team mates would be looking up to him for his support during the pressure cooker situations. With the demands of a fast paced game where fortunes fluctuate between the two sides within the span of few deliveries, a captain having a cool temperament is all the more vital.
• Problems should be thought over logically, both on and off the field.
• A good captain is a good judge of the characters of his players. He needs to know how to get the best out of his mates and how to exploit the feasibilities and shortcomings of his opponents.
• On the field it is of prime importance that the captain is good in assessing a batsman’s strength and weakness. And based on that he can use the bowlers who he thinks can trouble that particular batsman and give him the results. Accordingly he can also rotate his bowlers cleverly.
• As in any battle, there are valid tactical reasons to attack, defend and retreat. Never be afraid to attack the strength of the man at the crease and set him a trap to get him out. The same shot which gives a particular batsman lot of runs can sometimes also turn out to be his downfall! Isn’t it?
• A Captain must know his team foibles and failings, not all players are the same! Each has his own unique personality and each person might have to be dealt in a different manner from the other. Different players react in different ways in the same situation and respond to different treatment by the captain. Some give their best after being hurt by forcibly expressed criticism, while you can nag to get the best out of some players, others might need that gentle encouragement. To sum it up a few harsh words or a few words of expressing confidence and encouragement to the players to get them to their best and yes it depends on the individual whether you go for the harsh words or words of encouragement.
• Having talked about all the above points, it is also important for a captain to have the ability and the wisdom in reading the wicket. Only after reading the wicket properly that he can decide whether to bat first or bowl first and then plan up the strategy of what kind of bowling composition would be suitable on the kind of wicket given. And I tell you people, reading a wicket is not an easy task at all!
• The ideal temperament of a captain is difficult to say, but an extrovert always has an advantage over the introvert. He must be able to mix up with his team mates comfortably and mingle with them in a relaxed environment. The natural loner finds this extremely hard.
Building a Baby Earth!!!
The compass has been around since at least the 12th century, but scientists still don't know exactly how the Earth generates the magnetic field that keeps a compass needle pointing north.
But geophysicist Dan Lathrop is trying to find out — by building his own planet.
His latest effort at the University of Maryland towers over him, a massive stainless steel sphere that looks like a prop from some old science fiction movie. Later this year he plans to fill it with molten metal and set the whole 26-ton ball spinning. At top speed the equator will whirl by at 80 miles an hour.
Reading/Writing data in MS-Access database using javascript
Code copied from webdeveloper.com
Adding a Record
function AddRecord() {
var adoConn = new ActiveXObject("ADODB.Connection");
var adoRS = new ActiveXObject("ADODB.Recordset");
adoConn.Open("Provider=Microsoft.Jet.OLEDB.4.0;Data Source='/\dbName.mdb'");
adoRS.Open("Select * From tblName", adoConn, 1, 3);
adoRS.AddNew;
adoRS.Fields("FieldName").value = "Quentin";
adoRS.Update;
adoRS.Close();
adoConn.Close();
}
Removing a Record
function DeleteRecord() {
var adoConn = new ActiveXObject("ADODB.Connection");
var adoRS = new ActiveXObject("ADODB.Recordset");
adoConn.Open("Provider=Microsoft.Jet.OLEDB.4.0;Data Source='\\dbName.mdb'");
adoRS.Open("Select * From tblName Where FieldName = 'Quentin'", adoConn, 1, 3);
adoRS.Delete;
adoRS.Delete;
adoRS.Close();
adoConn.Close();
}
Editing a Record
function EditRecord() {
var adoConn = new ActiveXObject("ADODB.Connection");
var adoRS = new ActiveXObject("ADODB.Recordset");
adoConn.Open("Provider=Microsoft.Jet.OLEDB.4.0;Data Source='\\dbName.mdb'");
adoRS.Open("Select * From tblName Where FieldName = 'Quentin'", adoConn, 1, 3);
adoRS.Edit;
adoRS.Fields("FieldName").value = "New Name";
adoRS.Update;
adoRS.Close();
adoConn.Close();
}
Ajax programming with Struts 2
javaworld.com Article : Five steps to dynamic tables using Struts 2, Dojo and JSON
Death of a format - HD DVD
Toshiba has dropped out of the high-definition DVD battle, saying that it will stop production of its HD DVD players and recorders.
It means victory for Sony's Blu-ray format but will leave questions for all those who bought into the failed format as well as raising issues about whether anyone can benefit from a format war.
Bid farewell to Mouse (device)!!!
BBC reports that even microsoft have plans to support the touch screen interface in their up coming Windows 7. Microsoft's windows is the commonly used desktop platform across the world, so if 'Windows 7' doesn't need a mouse, new desktop wouldn't be having them. Anyway those desktops should have, much costlier touch screens for interface instead of this cheap device.
If Microsoft is doing this, sure that apple and even Linux touch screen support would come one by one. Then touch screen would be the cat eating our mouse device!
News podcast by All India Radio
No one could forget these famous line of our national radio.
Now we can listen to the AIR news on net. Even thought the audio quality if not soo good, its an good initiative by AIR.
http://www.newsonair.com/news_schedule.asp
Wishes to my friend
Wish you meet that person, who proposed you first
Wish you accept that now and marry him/her
Wish you get your dream job and earn a lot
Wish you go the top most position in that job
Wish you have as many kids, so they don't let you sleep
Wish you get the best manager awards
Wish you start your own company, and give me a developer job :)
Wish you make your company a billion dollar worth
Wish you become the best employer of that year
Wish you get elected as president of some prestigious institution
Wish you get the Indian of the Year: NRI
Wish you become so famous that a city is named after you!!!
Even with all these happenings, I wish…
Wish you remain the same old friend for me!!!!
Delhi beat Chennai by -1 runs?
[update: only after an hour (at 8:30 pm) the website got updated correctly]
Importance of good leadership from IPL
After 15 overs,
Chennai Super Kings - 102 for 3
After 11 overs,
Bangalore Royal Challengers - 102 for 2 (way ahead of chennai's RR)
But the match result
Chennai Super Kings
178 for 5 (Dhoni 65, Hussey 47, Zaheer 3-38)
beat
Bangalore Royal Challengers
165 (Taylor 53, Jaffer 50, Gony 3-34)
by 13 runs
Its the most exiting match in the IPL and a good example to prove the importance of leadership.
Dhoni has proved his ability to be a captain. He has the right aggression, attitude, motivation and most important 'leads by example'.
Even being former national team captian Rahul Dravid, in my views, lacks the agression and leadership qualities thats most needed in cricket now-a-days.
This is the very reason why, even being the most favorable team in teh IPL with all heavy weights, Hyderabad's deccan chargers are also failing. This proves how captainancy affects the team's performance.
Only if we have right leaders, we will succeed.
No more - I know, I know, I know,
Just a month later I was reading a article in ‘the hindu’, "An enigma called Raghuvaran" and was amazed with the casual response and way that article has been done. Raghuvaran was my favorite villan. His role in Basha and his dialogue in Puriyaadha Pudhir (i know, i know, i know about u) are my favorite. He has a great potential. What ever role he does, he does it to the prefect, but not much celebrated for that.
Today in the same hindu i read:
[Hindu] Veteran actor Raghuvaran passed away in a hospital here on Wednesday morning following a brief illness. Raghuvaran, 60, is survived by his ex-wife and son.
It’s a great loss to South Indian cinema industry. It’s hard to get a person like him, who’s a storehouse of talents. God bless his soul!!!
Raghuvaran (December 11, 1948 - March 19, 2008) - RIP
International Men's Day
According to wikipedia, first Saturday of November is International Men's Day and in India its 19th Nov.
Indian Men's rights organisation Save Indian Family has started an International campaign to build consensus on IMD on November 19th. As a first step, it has accepted 19th November to be celebrated in India as Men's Day. With this at least 20% of world's population accepts 19th November as International Men's Day.More interesting is with this web site for that http://www.mensday.in/, which quotes
Some bosses in Software Companies in Bangalore decide to give multiplex movie tickets to their team members. If you work in a Software Company in Bangalore, write your views and you can win* multiplex tickets.I hardly remember a 1980s TV serial name (in DD), in which the hero would be dreaming about living in a women dominated society and those Men fighting for their basic rights. Things have not got that worse but celebrating a day for us is definitely needed.
God save these Men!!!
Tragedy behind International Women's Day
The statue of Avvaiyar is being garlanded on the International Women's Day, the 8th of March every year in appreciation of the services of Avvaiyar for the cause of the feminine communityThe history behind these celebrations seems to be a tragedy. This day is to commemorate the "Triangle Shirtwaist Factory fire" tragedy, which took death toll of 148 women and also triggered mass protect for women safety in New York City.
Sujatha and Electronic Voting Machine
Its really interesting to know from Wikipedia that he is a professionally a engineer, who worked in BEL and was behind the design of Electronic Voting Machine. Its really inspiring to know, that a technology freak contributing to literature.
Today I came across this (kind-of memorial) website , sujathalogy.com, where we can leave our memories of this great writer.
S. Rangarajan alais Sujatha (May 3, 1935 - Feb 27, 2008, Aged: 72) - May his soul Rest in Peace
[Movie Review] Anjathey - அஞ்சாதே
Movie : Anjathey (Tamil Movie)
Crew :
Cast: Narain, Prasanna, Vijayalakshmi, Ajmal, Ponvannan, Pandia RajanMy First Impression : Good try!!! Should watch again in satyam or iNox.
Direction: Mysskin
Music: Sundar C Babu
Production: V. Hitesh Jhabak
Good five:
1. Screenplay was good with less masala content and doesn't deviates from the core.Bad five:
2. Story line was good and deals the issues with different perspective.
3. Not much heroism, very much goes with the reality.
4. Cinematography should be appreciated for trying out different angels and some perfect shots.
5. Narain's improved acting as a hero and Prasana's debut has a villan. Prasana really suits the half-psyco and womanizer character.
1. Slow moving screenplay. Its like viewing a 90 mins english thriller for 3 hrs.My Rating : 3.5 on 5
2. Pathetic acting of 2nd hero Ajmal and heroine vijayalakshmi, who comes has his sister.
3. BGM and songs are not that much good for a movie like this
4. In some scenes, logic takes a hit, but its fine overall.
5. Climax was somewhat confusing. If you miss even few frames you wouldn't understand anything.
Recommendation : If you are pissed off with the recent crap movies (like kaalai, bheema etc.) then this one should be a good alternative. Don't except any logic, masala or heroism, just sit and enjoy the different story line and good camera angels.
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IPL : Is this for a game?
There's no doubts that BCCI is getting richer because of this IPL, but there are certain things that come up in my mind
1) Is IPL over-hyped, as done before by its contender ICL
2) Are Indian people ready for soccer league type of sports
3) Why BCCI has floated this type of league, only after rival ICL
4) Is BCCI really concerned about the game or it's only on the money
5) Why Lalit Modi, chairman of IPL, partied with King Khan the day before the auction
6) Why players like Ricky Pointing and Shoaib Aktar are sold to king khan for cheaper rates
7) Is Dhoni worth for 6 cores
8) Why Chennai IPL team copied the 'Super' from the ICL team (Super kings from Super Stars)
9) Why can't Chennai IPL team choose a good title/ name (Super Kings sounds like Filter Kings cigars)
10) Will IPL make way to more betting and match fixing
It's clear that, more than the game, its money and media power that rules.
Ippadikku Rose : Hats off to Vijay TV
Even though many of its prime time shows are ditto copies of their sister channels in star network, this i think is only one of its kind. First time in Indian media a transgender person is anchoring a TV show. Imagine a Transgender person anchoring a show exclusively for the so called conservative and very reserved type of society, the Tamil speaking people. Good to know that, at-least now they get recognized in some way.
Hats off to vijay tv to take such an initiative. As quoted in New York Times, Pradeep Milroy Peter, who leads programming, says its very experimental.
“We don’t know how much acceptance there will be,” “We are crossing our fingers. The market has a craving for talk shows, but this one comes with a difference. It’s very experimental.”It's true, that acceptance of people like rose is more difficult, even in our modern society. The article quotes that reality
Hijras appear in positive roles in Indian mythology, but modern society has tended to be less tolerant. A majority are shunned by their families. Many find it impossible to obtain conventional jobs and turn instead to begging and sex work for a living.But, Rose (used to be known as Ramesh Venkatesan) was so confident
“Transgenders in India are seen as immoral and evil,” “I will break that image by being articulate, intelligent and a bit like the girl next door.”Hope this show gets all the attention it needs to get.
Related Blog Post : Ram Viswanathan
[Travel-log] Bharathidaasan books on mobile
It was a quick decision when we (me and my close friends) planned for thirupathi this weekend. We booked the tickets thru e-darshan for Saturday evening and knowing that traveling thru local bus service would be horrible, but with no other option we boarded SETC 911UD bus, which was quite decent.
As we haven't planned this trip, the bus travel was much boring. Then i remembered thinnai.info, which i came across few days back. I never before got a chance of reading great works of bharathidasan but was interested in them. So i downloaded some of his books in my mobile. It was really a excellent thought, of have those valuable books in our mobile. The whole day i was enjoying the poetic lines in "Kadhal Ninaivugal" and "Azhakin Cirippu". Hats off to the new and interesting concept of tamil mobile books launched by mobileveda, as it made my short trip a memorable one.
[My Thought] Padma awards 2008 - a nonsense?
its really sad that lotz of non-indians and NRI (who dont even care for the country) have been awarded. Why the he.. they are treating this bl..dy mittal same with our own ratan and murthy. mittal is domiciled in uk not like tata who is the boon and leads the indian industries in global market. what the he'' sunita has done to the country.
whats the signal that this useless govt is sending?
Is the padma awards is only for media famous people???
[Video News] Traffic Blockage at Anna Nagar
Later some traffic police officials came to spot and cleared the traffic (in the video). The reason being the traffic police man was demanding bribe from the autos being parked near thirumangalam bus stop and the drivers were protesting that.