I believe what i feel, but i don’t feel what i believed.
People say that you have to believe yourself, but you have to feel yourself before believing your-self (the self in you).
Feeling is more important than belief because your belief could be right or wrong but you always want your-self to feel good.
So believing what you feel is not a problem, but feeling all you believed may be foolish.
Do you really feel yourself or you believe your-self?
hmmm... Am I confused? :)
React Vs. Respond
[A good one from my email.]
Suddenly, a cockroach flew from somewhere and sat on a lady. She started screaming out of fear. With panic stricken face and trembling voice, she started jumping, with both her hands desperately trying to get rid of the cockroach. Her reaction was contagious, as everyone in her group got cranky to what was happening. The lady finally managed to push the cockroach to another lady in the group.
Now, it was the turn of the other lady in the group to continue the drama.
The waiter rushed forward to their rescue. In the relay of throwing, the cockroach next fell upon the waiter. The waiter stood firm, composed himself and observed the behavior of the cockroach on his shirt. When he was confident enough, he grabbed and threw it out with his fingers.
Sipping my coffee and watching the amusement, the antenna of my mind picked up a few thoughts and started wondering, was the cockroach responsible for their histrionic behavior? If so, then why was the waiter not disturbed? He handled it near to perfection, without any chaos.
It is not the cockroach, but the inability of the ladies to handle the disturbance caused by the cockroach that disturbed the ladies.
I realized even in my case then , it is not the shouting of my father or my boss that disturbs me, but it’s my inability to handle the disturbances caused by their shouting that disturbs me. It’s not the traffic jams on the road that disturbs me, but my inability to handle the disturbance caused by the traffic jam that disturbs me.
More than the problem, it’s my reaction to the problem that hurts me...
The Take-Away : The women reacted, whereas the waiter responded.
Do not react, only respond.
Reactions are always instinctive, whereas responses are always intellectual...
Suddenly, a cockroach flew from somewhere and sat on a lady. She started screaming out of fear. With panic stricken face and trembling voice, she started jumping, with both her hands desperately trying to get rid of the cockroach. Her reaction was contagious, as everyone in her group got cranky to what was happening. The lady finally managed to push the cockroach to another lady in the group.
Now, it was the turn of the other lady in the group to continue the drama.
The waiter rushed forward to their rescue. In the relay of throwing, the cockroach next fell upon the waiter. The waiter stood firm, composed himself and observed the behavior of the cockroach on his shirt. When he was confident enough, he grabbed and threw it out with his fingers.
Sipping my coffee and watching the amusement, the antenna of my mind picked up a few thoughts and started wondering, was the cockroach responsible for their histrionic behavior? If so, then why was the waiter not disturbed? He handled it near to perfection, without any chaos.
It is not the cockroach, but the inability of the ladies to handle the disturbance caused by the cockroach that disturbed the ladies.
I realized even in my case then , it is not the shouting of my father or my boss that disturbs me, but it’s my inability to handle the disturbances caused by their shouting that disturbs me. It’s not the traffic jams on the road that disturbs me, but my inability to handle the disturbance caused by the traffic jam that disturbs me.
More than the problem, it’s my reaction to the problem that hurts me...
The Take-Away : The women reacted, whereas the waiter responded.
Do not react, only respond.
Reactions are always instinctive, whereas responses are always intellectual...
Good Thoughts...
Courtesy: Shri Arun Ghante
[Small Story] Truth of Life
Small Story......truth of life
Once a Junior School teacher asked her students to bring some potatoes in a plastic bag to school. Each potato will be given a name of the person whom that child hates. Like this, the number of potatoes will be equal to the number of persons they hate. On a decided day the children brought their potatoes well addressed. Some had two, some had three and some had even five
potatoes. The teacher said they have to carry these potatoes with them everywhere they go for a week. As the days passed the children started to complain about the spoiled smell that started coming from these potatoes.
Once a Junior School teacher asked her students to bring some potatoes in a plastic bag to school. Each potato will be given a name of the person whom that child hates. Like this, the number of potatoes will be equal to the number of persons they hate. On a decided day the children brought their potatoes well addressed. Some had two, some had three and some had even five
potatoes. The teacher said they have to carry these potatoes with them everywhere they go for a week. As the days passed the children started to complain about the spoiled smell that started coming from these potatoes.
Also some students who had many potatoes complained that it was very heavy to carry them all around. The children got rid of this assignment after a week, when it got over.
The teacher asked, "How did you feel in this one week?" The children discussed their problems about the smell and weight. Then the teacher said, "This situation is very similar to what you carry in your heart when you don't like some people. This hatred makes your heart unhealthy and you carry that hatred in your heart everywhere you go. If you can not bear the smell
of spoiled potatoes for a week, imagine the impact of this hatred that you carry through out your life, on your heart?"
MORALE:
* OUR HEART IS A BEAUTIFUL GARDEN THAT NEEDS A REGULAR CLEANING OF UNWANTED WEEDS.
* FORGIVE THOSE WHO HAVE NOT BEHAVED WITH YOU AS EXPECTED AND FORGET THE BAD THINGS. THIS ALSO MAKES ROOM AVAILABLE FOR STORING GOOD THINGS. .
Best things in life.....
The best way to insult someone is to show them the respect which they didn't show you
The best liberties are the ones that you give to others when they can't return them to you
The best commonsense is to accept the uncommon in your stride
The best way to win an argument is to argue against words and not against people who say them
The best time in your life is the time that you spend with family
The best way to treat others is the way that you want them to treat you
The best way to deal with nonsense is to ignore it
The best doctor is one who cures his patients and not just the sickness
The best way to build a house is to remember that it has to be a home first
The best way to eat is to leave some space for air and life in your tummy, never stuff ur face
The best way to joke is to ensure that everyone laughs and no one is hurt
The best way to make a proposal is to make it honest, straightforward and factual
The best way to fail is to try to succeed every time using the same methods, problems dictate solutions
The best mother is your mother , nature never makes a bad mother, only bad kids
The best leader is one who involves his team and not just commands it
The best way to fight fear is to learn to think ahead of it
The best way to fool yourself is to think that you can fool someone else
The best friend you have is the one who tells you that you are wrong when you are
The best way to know your friends is to see if they know you when you are in trouble
The best way to treat your parents is exactly the way they treated you when you were a kid
The best way to learn dance is to forget who is around and start dancing
The best way to respond to someone in anger is not to
The best war is one that does not start , wars determine who is left not who is right
The best way to live is to live and let live
The best way to spend for family is to spend time with them
The best way to be online is to be as u r offline , never fake personalities
The best way to lie is not to
The best way to be a Manager is to always remember the time when u weren't
The best way to start a conversation is to listen to the other person
The best way to avoid conflict is to be upfront , honest and blunt if / when required
The best way to criticize someone is to put urself in their shoes and then do it
The best way to deal with a crisis is the calm way , panic will kill u , not the crisis
The best way to succeed is to constantly learn from failure and keep the chin up
The best way to solve a problem is to understand it fully first
The best way to be a dad/mom is to keep the child in you alive
The best way to make good friends is to be one
The best way to convey an opinion is to first listen to others and then speak
The best way to improve a bad speaker is to give him a learned audience
The best way to teach a fool is to give him what he asks for
[Good Sayings] Dangerous
Believing everybody is dangerous,
but believing nobody is more dangerous
- Abraham Lincoln
[Good Sayings] Changing
Everyone thinks of changing the world,
but no one thinks of changing himself
- Leo Tolstoy
[Good Sayings] Failure
I will not say I failed 1000 times, I will say
that I discovered 1000 ways that can cause failure.
Thomas Alva Edison
[Good Sayings] Mother Therasa - love and god
If we cannot love the person whom we see,
how can we love God, whom we can not see.....
- Mother Therasa
[Good Sayings] winning and losing
If you win, you need not have to explain...
If you lose, you should not be there to explain!
-Adolf Hitler
[Good Sayings] Never break these four things
Never break four things in our life Trust, Relation, Promise & Heart
because when they break, they don't make noise but pains lot
- Charles Dickens
[Good Sayings] Mistakes
If someone feels that they had never made a mistake in their life,
then it means they had never tried a new thing in their life.
- Albert Einstein
[Good Sayings] Swami Vivekananda - wrong path
In a day, you don't come across any problem
you can be sure that you are travelling in a wrong path
- Swami Vivekananda
[Good Sayings] Mother Therasa
If you judge people you do not have time to love them
- Mother Therasa
[Good Syaings] - Three sentences for getting success
Know more than the other
Work more than the other
Expect less than the other
- William Shakespear
Life is a like a software product
Life is a like a software product, developed by god.
Each problem we face in our life are like Bugs.
No product can be zero defect.
But by fixing the bugs, the product can become stable.
So god has a programmer, introduces bugs in his product, our life.
Fix and patches them on time to time.
We need to be patient enough to become a stable product.
THATS LIFE!!!